Many ways to share the Love! |
Why Self Love?
While it is true that women and girls have more equality and self esteem that ever before, something isn’t changing. We believe that something is self-love… while self esteem is something we want every woman and girl to have, knowing that you can do anything doesn’t stop women and girls from beating themselves up, putting themselves into abusive relationships or hating and destroying their bodies. Today, in the 21st century, these are the facts:
If you ever believed that self-love was a luxury think again. The repercussions of not having it, and worse not teaching it to our daughters, are serious. Today, while many people do understand the power of self-love because they have experienced its life changing affects, self-love still elicits definitions like narcissism, conceit, vanity, selfishness and others we won’t mention here. In a world where so many girls and women experience unnecessary suffering, not using the power of self-love will simply not do. About Madly in Love with MEMadly in Love with ME™ is a self-love movement. It was created to raise the awareness of self-love among women and girls around the world… and to provide a pathway that gives those women and girls the guidance, support, wisdom and inspiration they need to freely and fully live and love the women they are, free of self-criticism, self-hatred, and self-abuse. |
Take the Dare to Love Yourself
Listen to founder Christine Arylo, talk candidly and personally about why she’s dedicated her life to inspiring women to fall in love with themselves. Total playing time: 3:30 |
Our mission is to reclaim self-love for every woman and girl on this planet, so that she may know what it is to be deeply loved, starting with the love she has for herself. |
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The Madly in Love with ME™ Manifesta
Our vision for what the world looks like when a woman truly loves herself.
We believe that every woman has the right to fall madly in love with herself. To be so in love with who she is, to so deeply honor her body, mind and spirit that every choice she makes reflects that same deep honoring. That she is not only entitled to love herself, she is empowered to love herself simply because she is.
A Note From Christine Arylo, founder of Madly in Love with ME
| Christine Arylo defines the difference between self love and self esteem and give you four Madly in Love with ME factors you can use to gauge if you really do have self love. |
I thought the best way to share with you WHY I started this self love movement would be to tell you about a set of experiences I recently had that both elated my heart and broke it into pieces, all within a 72-hour time frame… if I ever had a doubt that women need to know what self love is and why it’s life critical to our lives and to our daughters, these experiences erased that doubt and reinvigorated my passion to make self-love something we openly talk about and embrace for ourselves and every being on this planet …
Recently, I was in a room full of 50 women talking about self love, what self love is, what self love isn’t, and why self love really is the answer to getting the relationships and love we want in our lives. And it was great! The women who came up to me after the interview told me of their own journeys to love themselves and what an impact it had on them. They told me of the work they were doing in the world to support other women... coaching women through divorces... supporting women in abusive relationships... filming a documentary on the desire for forever love. Work they could only do after they themselves had learned to love more of themselves. Leaving me even clearer that self-love is so NOT selfish... that actually loving ourselves allows us to help, inspire and support other women and girls around the world to find safety, peace, and love.
Now I compare that blissful experience to the one I had this morning at my dining room table in which I was really saddened by these very different responses from women:
- “I had reservations in calling you because of all the self love stuff that is on your website. I think self love is pretty hippy dippy.”
- “Is Madly in Love with ME Day about masturbation?”
- “Self-love isn't for me.”
Self-love has mostly been a word reserved for therapy rooms or spiritual circles, not a topic for conversation at the dinner table or among mothers and daughters, or even girlfriends. Most of us don't know what it means, nor do we know how to find it. And if I am honest, if you had told me 8 years ago when I was still neck deep in trying to find my happiness through my career titles, the size of my house, and getting my fiance to love and see me, I would have thought the same kinds of things. Self-love would have felt totally irrelevant at best and it would have sounded like a dirty word at the worst.
As I sat at my dining room table, my heart broken and full of sadness about the fact that women today still have these responses to self-love, as if self-love is a luxury or nice to have, versus a critical component to true happiness, this voice spoke to me… " Christine remember that your life mission is to reclaim the definition of self- love for every woman and girl. And today in the 21st century, that journey has just begun. It's your job to share what you've seen and learned and keep learning... going from a woman who thought she loved herself to one who understands that self esteem is not self love... and that without self love, happiness, success, a great relationship, and a career that you love and that loves you back, is not attainable.”
I add to this the facts listed above about the number of girls who will be sexually abused, become addicted to substances, and trapped into eating disorders and body hatred. And I add to that the growing amount of stress women are under today to be and do it all …. women who are now emotionally abusing themselves because they never feel like they are enough, and women who are creating physical illnesses that will only stay silent for so long.
It has been said by many elders and spiritual teachers that it will be the women who change the world. Sisters, if we are NOT taking care of ourselves, if we are not practicing self love on ourselves we cannot help anyone… not our own daughters or the daughters of this earth.
I invite each and every one of you to consider making the vow to yourself to love yourself… to spend your lifetime falling more and more in love with the beautiful, powerful, free woman you are… and then inspire all the women and girls you touch to do the same.
| “Learn the I Love Myself Song”
SARK and Christine Arylo sang it on live TV… do you dare to sing it out loud and proclaim your stand for self-love? |
With great heart,
Christine Arylo